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Time, women feel they have made it through treatment and their energy is coming back. As you are curious about when you can feel something like normal sexual desire.
It is rare that this is a problem during treatment or even three or six months after treatment ends. But at the time when women are being monitored less frequently and visits to their oncologists are less frequent, they begin to start asking, "What shall I do with the fact that it hurts when we try to have sex? I did not know that chemotherapy can make there sandpaper (dry). And I can see how disappointed he is and now weekday times we try. "
But I just I have no desire. Why does not my oncologist told me that chemotherapy can launch into premature menopause? "
The most common question after cancer treatment
You can ask your doctor what the normal course of events is expected with a person about your age and get the kind of cancer treatment. Doctors know that the most common question asked after treatment when the sexual desire will come back, so you will have information for you.
Now what do we do?
After obtaining a satisfactory response, then it is a priority to spend time alone with your partner. In other words, a commitment that cares enough to each other that the time to defend against everything else. Saying "no" to everything else as the "together time" approaches, organize some kind of transition from their normal working hours so that nothing interferes with the intent or mood. Turn off your cell phone. Do not even bother with dinner - eat a snack first and close the bedroom door so that children and pets will give you privacy.
Start with something that feels good, like taking a shower or bath together. Just enjoy the warm water and gently wash each other - nothing fancy, since this is not a prelude to sex. Then dry each other and carry out some lotion in the room with you. One of the found face down comfortably in bed while the other is heated a little lotion on your hands and starts a very light massage.
To begin, gently touching the top of the head and work down toward your feet, without touching the breasts or genitals. You're just cuddling, stroking and touching with hands on bare skin. When finished, one hand around the other. Then the person who has been making contact comes to bed and become the person being touched. You may also want to put some music and perhaps try a candle and a glass of wine, if desired.
The aim is to be very smooth, no expectations, not performance. Only the experience of being with each other. And while you are being touched, let yourself receive. Do not talk. Just enjoy the sensations.
It's just having a quiet moment at home together. It is intended to continue having sex, but serve as a good starting point for a couple who are trying to heal and feel less anxious than the first stirrings of sexual desire can emerge.
It is rare that this is a problem during treatment or even three or six months after treatment ends. But at the time when women are being monitored less frequently and visits to their oncologists are less frequent, they begin to start asking, "What shall I do with the fact that it hurts when we try to have sex? I did not know that chemotherapy can make there sandpaper (dry). And I can see how disappointed he is and now weekday times we try. "
But I just I have no desire. Why does not my oncologist told me that chemotherapy can launch into premature menopause? "
The most common question after cancer treatment
You can ask your doctor what the normal course of events is expected with a person about your age and get the kind of cancer treatment. Doctors know that the most common question asked after treatment when the sexual desire will come back, so you will have information for you.
Now what do we do?
After obtaining a satisfactory response, then it is a priority to spend time alone with your partner. In other words, a commitment that cares enough to each other that the time to defend against everything else. Saying "no" to everything else as the "together time" approaches, organize some kind of transition from their normal working hours so that nothing interferes with the intent or mood. Turn off your cell phone. Do not even bother with dinner - eat a snack first and close the bedroom door so that children and pets will give you privacy.
Start with something that feels good, like taking a shower or bath together. Just enjoy the warm water and gently wash each other - nothing fancy, since this is not a prelude to sex. Then dry each other and carry out some lotion in the room with you. One of the found face down comfortably in bed while the other is heated a little lotion on your hands and starts a very light massage.
To begin, gently touching the top of the head and work down toward your feet, without touching the breasts or genitals. You're just cuddling, stroking and touching with hands on bare skin. When finished, one hand around the other. Then the person who has been making contact comes to bed and become the person being touched. You may also want to put some music and perhaps try a candle and a glass of wine, if desired.
The aim is to be very smooth, no expectations, not performance. Only the experience of being with each other. And while you are being touched, let yourself receive. Do not talk. Just enjoy the sensations.
It's just having a quiet moment at home together. It is intended to continue having sex, but serve as a good starting point for a couple who are trying to heal and feel less anxious than the first stirrings of sexual desire can emerge.
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